Once you recognize the story in you, it is time to put it down in words. It is a powerful way to connect with readers who may resonate with your journey. Sharing your personal experiences is not just cathartic; it can give hope to someone or inspire another.

Yes, there are many things to consider. What to say and what to hold back? But it's all worth it. Jenny Fagan, the novelist who wrote her memoir, said, "This book kept me alive." Though a personal revelation, her memoir was a therapeutic experience for her. Many people feel recalling their life story gives them the necessary closure.

It can be a document chronicling an entire generation's journey of coming into being and how it shapes the next generation. It can also be a celebration of how much has been endured, lost, and gained—a true legacy for generations to cherish.

Why should I write my memoir?

Ask yourself why not? Granted, many people feel writing a book about themselves is unnecessary. But if you have experienced tremendous personal growth or overcame insurmountable barriers that seemed impossible, you have a story.  If you are met with random praises for simply being yourself, though you feel there is nothing special about you, there are lessons in your life.

Would you like to trace your family history? Understand your ancestors better.  Maybe you want to share your perspective and offer change. If you have answered yes to any of these questions, an incredible story has been brewing all your life.

If you are wondering if anyone will read my story even though I am not a celebrity, then let us tell you this: there is a genuine curiosity to know how to live better, and it does not come only from celebrities. People want to see the extraordinary in ordinary lives. That's where inspiration strikes.  Teachers, doctors, and nurses are all coming up with their stories; it's time you did the same.

How to start writing a book about your life?

Having so much information and penning it down with a purpose may seem challenging. Even Cher had been in the throes of giving up writing her memoir many times.

To make writing your memoir enjoyable and achievable, we have broken it down into doable, easy steps.

The seven easy steps for successfully writing your life story

Gather your thoughts

Before starting the actual writing, it is imperative that you prepare any information that you can use. You can do this by browsing old photo albums; it gives your memory a good kickstart. You can also try reading old journals or diary entries. When writing her memoir, Pamela Anderson relied heavily on her journals.

You may feel like an autobiography should include everything, right? Yes, technically, you are correct. But you should know it can be exhaustive. If you do not have a clear plan of what to include, key details can get lost. Have a pattern or theme been guiding your life, moulding your being? Would you like to develop it?

Reach out to people who can help you understand and connect with incidents and events in your life. Make an informed choice of what to leave out, include, and anticipate the outcome. Allow yourself as much grace as you need; this process can be agonising.

Map out your life for your memoir writing

Once you have a rough idea and have gathered most of the material for your memoir, you will have to organise the vast body of information. It is considered a best practice to write a memoir in chronological order. However, if you want to follow any particular genre of writing, feel free to ditch the time order.  For example, if you are writing essays about the events in your life, you do not need to categorise them according to a timeline.

You can start your story with your birth or maybe with an antidote that shaped your life the most. That will grasp the reader's attention for sure. There is no one fixed way to write a book about your life. Explore different possibilities, and start reading autobiographies and biographies. Is there a particular one that you resonate with? Try to understand why it speaks to you.

Write down your expectations from your story; it will give a purpose to your writing journey.

Create a structure

This step is perhaps crucial in every author's journey, especially for a beginner. The outline is your basic framework. You do not need to adhere strictly to the structure; it can serve as a general guideline.

If you doubt the flow of the story, the structure will come in handy. If there are events or people that you do not want to omit from your story, the outline will act as a reminder and let you highlight their importance.

Writing a book about your life

Your manuscript is everything. Needless to say, the first line of any book carries special significance. So, always start with a strong introduction. It will help lay the foundation for the story and evoke the reader's curiosity. Nelson Mandela's autobiography, Long Walk to Freedom, gives insight into his life and connects it to the meaning of his name in the first few paragraphs. The more details you would add to your story, the more depth it will have.

Going to extraordinary lengths for events and feelings is a pivotal marker of a great story. ​Do not deem anything unnecessary if it is related to your story. Write it all down, the good and the bad. You will fail to show your vulnerability if you do not discuss your shortcomings. It would make you an unrealistic, perfect individual with whom no ordinary person can relate. We cannot but reiterate, to be honest, authenticity will add an endearing quality to your story.

You can use descriptive language.  Place yourself at the exact moment; it can help create a sensory effect on the readers. You can use dialogue to carry the narration. Dialogues are also very effective in building characters. Interactions keep the story interesting. However, forced dialogue can make the story dull or out of touch. Your dialogue should be written in the way you speak. Making a note of accent markers or any colloquial information will make the dialogue more natural than forced.

Read, rewrite, repeat

Drafting the memoir must have been a herculean task. Unfortunately, it is still not ready to be published. After finishing writing, consider revising it to give it a final polish. To make it publish-ready, you must ensure the copy is clean.

If you are considering editing yourself, here are some tips.

• Give it a good read. Look for inconsistencies and duplication. Address the issues and reread them.
• Run a fact check. You do not want to have any errors in your book.
• If you are unhappy with something, rephrase it. Sometimes, rewording can make it even better.

You may need a few edits until you are satisfied, and it is very reasonable to make changes as you read and edit the draft. It can be an exhaustive process, but this extra effort will bring wonderful results. After all it is your labour of love that makes the difference.

Feedback

Though you are the best judge for your book, enlisting a few trusted readers does not hurt. Ask your friends and family to read it and give their opinion. Maybe they will have a good idea that you can use. Do not take feedback as criticism or an insult; take it constructively. Try to see how you can incorporate the suggestions.

Publish

It will be exhilarating to have your manuscript ready for publishing. One last thing to do before sending off the draft for publication is to select a few photographs. Your memoir is a true story. The characters are all real, and what can be better than giving a glimpse of the life you are writing about through some snaps frozen in time?

Choose a publisher based on whether you want to make your book available to the public or as a keepsake for your family. If you want a wider audience, you must also market your book.

Bonus tip - Hire a ghostwriter

Writing down your life story is an achievement in itself. If you find it overwhelming, hire a ghostwriter to help you write your story.  At StoryTerrace, we match each storyteller with the best writer. You can choose from our different categories of writers with various expertise to write your story. You can take your mind off the writing bit and concentrate on the story.

Our expert writers and editors will draft your story your way. We understand that each story is unique and holds a special place in our narrator's life. It is more than a legacy or a motivational work; it is the story of your becoming, your life work.

If you need help with only publishing for the story that you have written down, then take advantage of our self-publishing packages. From marketing to promotions, we have you covered. Get in touch with us today to start writing your incredible story.

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Why should you read this guide?

• Use our free resources and templates to plan your memoir: gather your memories and figure out the right structure
• Learn how to develop a writing habit, overcome writer's block, and develop your own unique style
• Get inside information on book-production, from editing and proofreading to design and printing

Chapter 1: Organising your memories

In this chapter, we share two free resources to recall and organise your memories: a set of 65 Memory Prompts we use with our customers to kick-start the process, and a Timeline Template you can then use to organise all the information.

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Chapter 2: Structure your story

In this chapter, you’ll learn five different approaches professional authors take to structuring their stories, so you can choose the one most suited to your book.

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Chapter 3: Writing (the nitty gritty!)

Everything’s planned. Now you’ve actually got to start writing. But how will you find the time in your busy schedule? In this chapter, you’ll learn how to create a habit out of writing, as well as developing your own unique writing style.

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Chapter 4: Overcoming writer’s block

It happens even to the best of us. In Chapter 4, learn how to beat writer’s block, so you're fully equipped to fight it off when it comes along.

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Chapter 5: Editing and proofreading

Chances are, you don’t know the difference between editing and proofreading. In this chapter, you'll learn how to edit and proofread your life story, step-by-step.

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Chapter 6: How to digitise your photos

There are four different ways you can convert your old photographs into digital copies for your pages. In this chapter, you’ll learn the advantages and disadvantages of each method.

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Chapter 7: Designing and printing your book

Chapter 7 reveals all the best design practices to make your book look truly beautiful.

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Chapter 8: How to make your book cover stand out

Make potential readers stop in their tracks! From bold and eccentric, to romantic pastels, create an eye-catching book cover with these ideas.

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Chapter 9: An overview

A quick recap of Chapters 1-8 with all the most valuable bits of information you need. We’ll also give you more of an insight into how we can help!

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Start at the beginning

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As a StoryTerrace ghostwriter, it’s been my pleasure to interview so many interesting people to help them tell their stories. In particular, there’s nothing better than hearing a wonderful love story.

In honor of Valentine’s Day, we thought we’d share the story of Alan and Marilyn Robbins. They’ve been married for 51 years, and when I sat down with them to discuss Alan’s autobiography, it was immediately apparent that they share a special bond. Marilyn can finish Alan’s sentences perfectly, and he still lights up when he talks about the day they met as if it were yesterday.

Now that the book is complete, Alan and Marilyn graciously agreed to sit down with me again to talk about their experience with StoryTerrace and to give both sides of the story of how they met, fell in love, and got married.

The cover of Alan Robbins’ autobiography

When Alan turned 80, his daughter presented him with a StoryTerrace biography to mark the occasion. "She always finds the best, most unique gifts," Marilyn explains, "and now we recommend StoryTerrace to friends as well."

For Alan, the gift was especially meaningful because he had always wanted to write his autobiography. He appreciated having time to think ahead before the interview and found the process of working with a writer in person very enjoyable. "I think everyone should try writing their life story, because it helps them focus on the most important things in life," he advises.

When I asked why Alan chose a photo from his wedding day for the cover of his book, he said, "That’s the epitome of who I am." Smiling, arm in arm with Marilyn: There’s clearly nowhere else Alan would rather be than by her side as they step into the future together.

Meeting Marilyn

The Lake Tarleton Club in the White Mountains of New Hampshire, where Alan and Marilyn met

Alan was just beginning his long career as a lawyer when a friend invited him along on a Workers' Day weekend getaway to New Hampshire. It was his chance to relax for the last bit of summer before autumn began to set in to Boston, where he lived and worked.

The trip would change his life.

Click below to LISTEN to Alan as he reads from his autobiography about the first time he saw Marilyn:

When Alan first saw Marilyn at the club’s volleyball court, he knew she was someone special. He was struck by the way she walked: confidently, completely in command of herself. He didn’t think that her companions could tell how he felt about her, but Marilyn remembers the moment a bit differently.

"He brought us drinks, and it was soon clear that he was interested in me and not my girlfriends," she recalls. "They soon left us alone, and we spent the entire weekend together."

By the time Alan returned to Boston, he had Marilyn’s number and a promise to see her again soon. Through that autumn, winter, and spring, they saw each other twice a month, taking turns travelling from Boston to New York City, where Marilyn lived with her parents in the Bronx.

The Moment of Truth

One of Alan’s favourite photos of Marilyn

After 10 months of their long-distance relationship, Marilyn was ready to make a move. Marilyn was in her mid-20s, and she knew what she wanted out of life. "Oh, I gave him an ultimatum," she says. "I told him I was getting a summer house on Fire Island with my girlfriends and that would be the end of it unless he wanted to get married."

Alan knew he didn’t want to lose her, so he took the leap. "I went and got a ring," he says. "I knew I didn’t want to ever be without her."

A Perfect Wedding

The Eldorado club, where Alan and Marilyn were married

"It was a beautiful day," Marilyn remembers, "and such a lovely place for a wedding." Alan and Marilyn were married in September, one year after they first met in the White Mountains. They were young, happy, and surrounded by friends and family — the ideal beginning for a long life together.

Surrounded by Loved Ones

Marilyn’s South American relatives made the long trip for the wedding

One of the things that made Alan and Marilyn’s wedding so special was that many of her relatives made the trip to New York from Argentina.

How does a Bronx girl end up with such a far-flung guest list?

Marilyn’s father left his home in Besarabia (Moldova today) when he was just 19 to seek his fortune in America. His mothers and sisters stayed behind, and their lives were in danger as Hitler rose to power and began to sweep Eastern European Jews into concentration camps at the beginning of the Holocaust.

Marilyn’s father feverishly worked to scrape up every possible penny. Through underground sources, he was able to get his family the money and contacts they needed to get out of Besarabia. Marilyn chokes up telling the story of her father’s heroism. "He saved them," she says simply, leaving the terrifying alternative unspoken.

Marilyn’s relatives couldn’t gain entry into the United States, but they were welcomed into Argentina. Marilyn and Alan’s wedding served as a wonderful family reunion, and they have stayed in close touch in the decades since that day.

So What’s the Secret?

Not everyone manages to nurture a marriage through 51 years of ups and downs, so my final question to Alan and Marilyn was this:

What’s the secret to your long and happy marriage?

To Marilyn, love is the key. "I knew him when we got married. I knew who he was." Going into a marriage clear-eyed, Marilyn knew what she wanted and was determined to get it, with Alan as her partner.

"We do everything together," Alan adds. He describes going to every doctor’s appointment together ("something we do a lot more of these days," he jokes) as an example. Whether traveling on their annual vacations, spending time with their grandchildren, or answering my questions, Alan and Marilyn prefer to live life as a pair. They choose togetherness, every day.

Here’s wishing them many more years of happiness.

If you’ve been inspired by Alan and Marilyn to tell your own love story, StoryTerrace is here to help! Get in touch to find out how you can write your memoirs, or sign up for our newsletter to hear more heartwarming stories from our clients.

Have you ever wondered how dating began?

Here at StoryTerrace, we definitely have — after all, we’ve written countless beautiful stories about love, courting, and marriage.

So we decided to look at the history of dating and its progression into modern day. What we found made our hearts all warm and tingly.

In the Beginning

Ancient Societies Weren’t So Lovey-Dovey (3000 BC – AD 500)

Most marriages in ancient times weren’t by choice, but by capture. After the founding of Rome, there was a shortage of women. So, the Roman men abducted women from other nearby cities, with the intent to increase their population.

Arranged marriages were also the norm. Rather than matters of the heart, those couplings were more like business arrangements related to economic stability, property, and political alliances.

The Middle Ages Ushers in Chivalry (500 to 1400–1500 CE)

As a response to arranged marriages, civilised courtship and chivalry blossomed in medieval times. With love as their guide, suitors enticed the object of their affection with songs, poetry, and dinner — which they learned from lovelorn characters in plays.

It was during this era that a well-known phrase originated. When a knight was competing in a jousting match — a popular sport among nobility — he could dedicate the event to a woman he loved by tying something to his shirt sleeve that belonged to her. Usually, a handkerchief. This is how the saying "He wears his heart on his sleeve" came to be.

The Victorian Era Feels the Love (1837-1901)

Courting became even more formal among the upper classes, with romantic love recognised as an important factor in marriage. At events, men and women first had to be introduced — they couldn’t approach each other without proper introduction. Then, men gave their card to the lady if they were interested in walking her home. At the end of the event, the ladies reviewed their options from all the cards they’d received and chose the man they wanted to escort them home.

Courting was definitely not private. Couples were usually only together while a chaperone — often the young woman’s parents — watched. Back then, marriage proposals were typically delivered in writing.

Modern Dating

Photo Credit: Getty Images

The word “date” came to be rather unintentionally. In 1896, a Chicago Record columnist, George Ade, wrote that the girlfriend of a man named Artie had lost interest in their relationship and began courting other men. When Artie asks his soon-to-be ex-girlfriend about her intentions, he says: “I s’pose the other boy’s fillin’ all my dates?”

See, before the early 1900s, courting was for the benefit of family and community interest, but by the time a new century began, courting had fully transitioned to a private matter for couples. Finally, in 1913 the American government formally recognised marriage in law, and by 1929, all states had laws regarding marriage licenses.

In the Roaring Twenties, the word "dating" officially entered the American language. But the act of dating was actually frowned upon by police, politicians, and civic leaders because they viewed it as enabling women to become more independent of their fathers and husbands.

We’ve come a long way since then!

Free Love

In the 1960s and 1970s, free love became a social movement — one major aspect of which meant that people could be sexually active with many casual sex partners and little or no commitment.

But another aspect involved certain laws and specifically working to remove state regulations from decisions about marriage, divorce, birth control, age of consent, abortion, adultery, and homosexuality. These changes reverberate throughout modern society today.

Digital Dating

Believe it or not, online dating has been around for nearly 30 years! Kiss.com was the first digital matchmaker to arrive on the scene in 1994, followed by Match.com in 1995. Since then, online dating sites and apps have exploded.

The pandemic, of course, only boosted the use of those innovations. With the entire world in lockdown, membership for dating sites and apps increased at unprecedented rates. What used to be thought of taboo or looked down upon is now the new norm in dating.

Digital dating has opened up singles to the entire world. A man in America can now “date” a woman in England, getting to know each other through video chats before deciding to meet in person. A divorced lady in Australia can easily “meet” a South African fellow through texting, voice notes, and emails.

How’d You Two Meet?

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When’s the last time you thought about your own love story? Or maybe your parents’?

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to capture those beautiful memories and experiences in a stunning book? You don’t have to be famous or have a Hollywood-style meet-cute to make your story worth telling. We’re sure it’s already amazing and definitely worth sharing — just like Alex and Barbara Lutkus did with their StoryTerrace book.

So the next time someone asks, "How'd you first meet?" you'll have it all ready to go in a terrific book that'll last for generations.

Have you been inspired to write your own love story? We're here for you! Just contact StoryTerrace or sign up for our newsletter to learn more about capturing your story for future generations.

Every couple has a story of how they first met.

One of my great professional pleasures is interviewing StoryTerrace customers to find out more about their amazing life stories. Each one is different and completely fascinating in its own way, but I must admit I have a soft spot for the love stories. There’s something so inspiring about sitting down with a couple and hearing them finish each other’s sentences as they recount the history of their relationship.

And so it was with Alex and Barbara Lutkus. Though we weren’t face to face for our talk, I could still hear their deep connection in their voices on the line as they told me about their 50-year marriage.

Alex and Barbara’s StoryTerrace biography.

Alex and Barbara, like so many storytellers before them, received their StoryTerrace package as a gift from their daughter. "She discovered the service through a neighbor," Barbara recalls. The couple received their StoryTerrace gift to mark their fiftieth wedding anniversary and completed a series of four interviews with a professional writer this past spring.

When asked if the pandemic made working with a writer more challenging, Alex had no complaints. They each sent the writer prepared thoughts ahead of time and then answered follow-up questions over the phone. "We just followed the process," Alex recalls. "She always kept us informed of the progress"

One Marriage, Two Voices

Alex and Barbara on their wedding day in Oakland, California in 1971.

From the moment they met, Alex and Barbara had two distinct voices. As Alex tells it in the book, he was initially attracted to Barbara due to her London accent, which floated to him on the air through a crowded club. Their relationship is the story of blending two unique backgrounds — she's from England, he's from New York City — as they settled together in California, thousands of miles from where either grew up.

In their StoryTerrace book, Barbara and Alex chose to maintain their two voices. Each section of the book is devoted to an era in their lives, but the writer cleverly crafted the book so that the narration bounces back and forth between Alex and Barbara. In this way, the readers — which will eventually include the couple's grandchildren — get a good sense of exactly what each of them was thinking as they met, married, and began their life together.

Some Valentine’s Day Advice

By the time Alex introduced Barbara to his family in New York City in 1969, he knew he would propose.

I spoke to Alex and Barbara in February, so I couldn't resist asking them to share some advice to other couples for Valentine’s Day. Barbara didn’t hesitate: "Enjoy the time on your own as much as possible first," she says, listing traveling and time with friends as important parts of a well-rounded life. "The fact that we were 29 and 30 when we got married was huge because the older you are, the more you appreciate what you have."

Alex agrees. "If you’re young, naive, and immature, that’s a bad time to get married. You’ll know when you’re ready."

On Making Love Last

Alex and Barbara celebrating Thanksgiving with their children and grandchildren in California.

Five decades of marriage is an incredible milestone, so I asked Barbara and Alex about the secret to staying together for so many years. For Alex, communication is key: "Talk to each other — a lot," he says. "You want to develop plans and stay in tune with each other so that you’re doing things together, not separately."

Barbara was a bit more philosophical. "There are many reasons we’re still together," she says, "but above all, we both began with the determination that we expected it to last."

And so it did.

Does your family have an amazing love story to tell? StoryTerrace can help you get it down on paper to preserve it forever. To find out more about working with our professional writers, get in touch today or sign up for our newsletter to read more real-life stories from our customers.

Deborah Schroeder told me she met her second husband at a PWP dance. Did I know what that was?

I nodded. "Parents Without Partners."

She went on to tell me about the first time she met Ronin, the charismatic President of the local PWP chapter. Her friend naturally thought they should meet. Their first dance was awkward and ended with Deborah twirling into someone else's arms. They clicked at their second dance a few months later, gliding on the dancefloor like Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers. They've now been married for over three decades.

Watch: Celeste on the experience of writing biographies with Story Terrace

I loved hearing Deborah talk about PWP. I'd grown up going to various PWP events as a kid in the 80s and 90s, whether picnics at Eisenhower Park or a long summer weekend camp on a lake in the Catskills. Like Deborah, my mom was a single parent. But I hadn't heard the name PWP mentioned in years, and in fact, never really talked to my mom about it other than laughing about that one year on the lake when a bunch of brace-faced misfits (myself included) did a rendition of The Who's Tommy.

"I always leave my StoryTerrace interviews feeling lucky."

Talking with Deborah felt like talking with a friend. Even before I'd met Deborah, I'd felt like I'd known her. Out of the few bullets on information I received beforehand, the one that stuck out was “she likes to go out with her girlfriends.” She valued having a community of women. So did I.

At her kitchen table over the course of two days, I was privy to all sorts of interesting things about her rich and varied life. I learned more about Portland’s Rose Parade, an annual tradition in my adopted city, and how she was in the running for Rose City princess in high school. I got an intimate glimpse of what life was like as a single mom of three boys for many years, and admired her unwavering devotion to them. I heard about the women’s fashion shop she managed alongside her mother before taking over herself—and that Seattle has great fabric markets. We laughed easily together.

I always leave my StoryTerrace interviews feeling lucky. In this case, I felt lucky to have another viewpoint of Portland history. As a mother myself, I also felt lucky to absorb her wisdom about love and motherhood—especially from a single mom perspective. “My boys were my life,” she told me. Whether making sure they got the best education or showing up for every sporting event, she did everything she could to ensure they thrived.

My mom, a single mother who worked as a bowling alley waitress, did the same.

It doesn't happen all the time, but every now and then I really click with my interviewees. Deborah and I really clicked. Just when I wished I’d had more time with her, she casually mentioned she'd like to have our family over for dinner as I was walking out the door. I wasn’t surprised. That was Deborah—warm, inviting, and ever so generous.

First, though, I had a call to make. “Mom, I realized I never asked you much about PWP," I said when she picked up the phone. “Tell me more.”

You can learn more about Deborah's experience of making her book, on our blog. To find out more about working with us, subscribe to our newsletter, or get in touch via our contact page.

It’s that time of year again.

No sooner is the Christmas tinsel down than cherubic cupids take over as the retail decor of choice. Everything is red and covered in hearts, all in an attempt to get you to buy a gift for your sweetie.

Don’t get us wrong — we like that there’s a day set aside specifically to show people you love them. We love the idea of reaching out and making interpersonal connections.

But surely there’s a better way to do that than with a box of chocolates?

The best gifts come imbued with meaning for both the giver and the recipient. Some people have a talent for choosing a gift that speaks volumes — but the rest of us can learn to do better.

Try some of these out-of-the-box ideas to give a meaningful gift this Valentine’s Day — or any time you want to surprise someone special with an amazing present.

1. The Opportunity to Explore a New Talent

Most people have something they’ve always wanted to learn how to do. Whether it’s using a pottery wheel, figure skating, or baking a perfect pie, life often gets in the way of our creative pursuits. So why not give your loved one a nudge in the right direction with a gift card covering a workshop or series of lessons? Learning a new skill is hugely rewarding, and it boosts brain health, too.

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2. A Little Breathing Room

Valentine’s Day is all about togetherness, but everyone needs time alone to rest, recharge, and be more fully themselves. You can support your partner in this endeavour by giving the gift of space. Instead of a spa day or massage — which only lasts for a few hours at most — give the gift of meditation. Meditation provides a wealth of cognitive and health benefits, including an increased capacity for awe. Also, there’s an app for that.

The Message Behind the Gift: I respect you as a complete person, and I want you to enjoy lasting peace in your life.

3. A Living Companion

Sometimes when you’re bursting at the seams with big feelings, it’s hard to know what to do with all that emotion. Bringing a pet into someone’s life can create a tangible object of affection and focus that energy for good. Forging a bond with an animal is a gift that can lower blood pressure, boost mood, and more. An animal can also help combat loneliness if you and your loved one live far apart.

The Message Behind the Gift: I have felt your love, and I know that you have so much more of it to give.

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4. A Year’s Worth of Flowers

Flowers are a pretty traditional Valentine’s Day gift, but they don’t last long. Solve this problem by giving your loved one a subscription to monthly bouquets so that the fresh arrangements just keep coming. The beauty of this gift is precisely that flowers are ephemeral: There’s nothing practical about them, so it’s a gift with no ulterior motive other than to make someone happy.

The Message Behind the Gift: I think you are beautiful, and I want you to be surrounded by beautiful things.

5. A Session With a Personal Biographer

What could be more meaningful than the chance to tell the story of your life? At StoryTerrace, we connect people with professional writers to create a truly special memoir. The process allows the storyteller to gain perspective on their life and share what they’ve learned with others — and at the end of the journey, your loved one has a marvellous, hardcover book to enjoy forever.

The Message Behind the Gift: I see you, and you’re so important to me that I want to preserve a piece of you to last for all time.

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StoryTerrace client Didin Donckers (left) sat down with one of our professional writers, Eef Lanoye, in the comfort of her home

6. A Lifelong Dream

Gifts are highly personal, and only you know what your partner wants more than anything else. Whether that’s seeing Hamilton on the West End or hiking Ben Nevis, you might be able to make it happen. Not all "bucket list" adventures are expensive, so don’t be afraid to get creative to turn a lifelong wish into reality.

The Message Behind the Gift: I listen when you talk about your dreams, and I want to make them come true.

The Finishing Touch

No matter what gift you decide to give your loved ones, you have the power to make it stand out by adding a personal, heartfelt note. In this world of rapid-fire texting and Facebook posts, a handwritten letter that shares your feelings in your own words is truly precious. So grab a pen and take a moment to open up on paper — it’s one of the greatest gifts of all, and it doesn’t cost a thing.

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Feeling inspired? To learn more about giving the gift of a beautiful, hardcover biography, get in touch with StoryTerrace

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Perhaps you’ve recently heard this term and wonder what it means. Or maybe someone just told you that a significant portion of autobiographies and memoirs are ghostwritten—or that they’ve decided to hire a ghostwriter—and that has sparked your curiosity. 

Well, regardless of the reasons why you’re curious, wonder no more! This post will provide into the meaning of ghostwriters, delve into how the process works, and much more. 

The Meaning of Ghostwriters

At a high level, a ghostwriter is someone who creates content for another person, publishing it under that person’s name. Ghostwriting can be used for blog posts, speeches, songs, and books about your life, your loved ones, and more...Let’s focus on a more specific question: “What is a ghostwriter for a book?” As even more of a nuance, we’ll home in on time-tested types of books that are often ghostwritten: memoirs and family histories. 

As an example of ghostwriting books, let’s say that a man named Fred wants his intriguing life story told but isn’t sure how. So, Fred might work with Ghostwriter Mary to pen his tale—with Fred’s name appearing on the cover. This scenario covers the basic ghostwriter definition for books.

In the best circumstances, though, ghostwriting goes beyond simply writing material based upon what another person has to say. Instead, ideally, ghostwriting is a true collaboration between the author and the person whose story is being told, clearly shared in the voice of the storyteller rather than that of the writer. 

History of Ghostwriting

Although the term “ghostwriting” is reasonably new, the concept itself is as old as time. The word itself was created in 1921 by an American man named Christy Walsh. He saw a great opportunity to share the stories of the country’s sports heroes, so he set up a company to do exactly that.

The notion of finding ways of sharing stories, though, goes back thousands of years—back to when our ancestors would warm their hands around a fire and tell tales. Stories that resonated would be retold by the next generation—and then the next and then the next. All this, of course, took place before writing was invented. Then, once writing systems were created, only a select few knew how to use them. Those scribes, then, wrote down tales for other people. 

Fast forwarding to more modern times, it hasn’t been unusual for celebrities to hire other people to write their books. Then, with the advent of the internet and related technologies, the pool of people who have chosen to use ghostwriters to share their life stories has expanded enormously.

Reasons Why People Hire a Ghostwriter

Now that we’ve shared an answer to “What is a ghostwriter?”, we’ll turn to why people do so. Although each person can have unique reasons, here are common ones:

• You’re too busy. Life can get hectic—and you may simply not have enough time to pen your stories. In that case, turning to a professional who ghostwrites them can streamline the process. 
• A sounding board is helpful. Any time you make a significant life decision (moving, changing jobs, or retiring as three examples), bouncing ideas off of a friend or loved one can be quite helpful. A skilled ghostwriter can perform the same function. 
• You’re too close to the story. As you live your life, what you do can feel typical. After all, it’s what you have spent your time doing! An attentive ghostwriter, though, can stay attuned to areas of your life’s story that are especially fascinating and suggest places where you might expand the memoir. 
• Structuring your memoir can be challenging. Sure, it can be obvious when your story begins. Literally, it’s your birth. But, is that the best place to start a memoir to grab the readers’ attention? An expert ghostwriter can help you with that.
• You lack confidence about your ability. Just like with anything in life, tackling a task that you’ve never done before can come with uncertainty. Relying upon someone with a proven record of success can eliminate that roadblock.
• You’ve tried but stalled out. This is incredibly common! With a dedicated ghostwriter, though, you can set a schedule together and continue to collaboratively move forward on the project. 

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So, if you’ve been wondering, “What is the point of a ghostwriter?”, you can see how choosing the right one will allow you to create a meaningful book of professional quality.

Now, here are more specific ways in which you can receive quality help when you hire a ghostwriter.

Benefits of Ghostwriting Services

Plenty of ways exist to tell the same overarching story, which means that numerous decisions must be made throughout the process. Here are some of the decision points where having a trusted ghostwriter at your side can be crucial.

Memoir scope

Unlike a biography in which a person’s entire life to date is described, a memoir often focuses more heavily upon a specific time in that person’s lifetime or on events that support a specific element. For example, if someone ends up with a rewarding career in the arts, the memoirist may spend some time showing how childhood events contributed to this trajectory and much of the rest on the career events. This isn’t to say that other components of life aren’t included. It’s more about emphasis. Experienced ghostwriters gain a good sense of how broadly or narrowly a story can fit within a certain word count and story arc and otherwise help you to appropriately right-size your scope. 

Memoir Theme

Perhaps you’ve experienced challenging life events. In that case, your theme may be overcoming adversity. Or, maybe you’d struggled to find your purpose in life but ultimately did. The memoir could demonstrate this journey. When looking at your own life, it can be difficult to identify themes, but having one in mind as you choose what scenes to include in your memoir can make a truly unified book. Skilled ghostwriters can have a sense of objectivity as they listen to your story, helping you to pinpoint the most effective theme. 

Memoir Tone

Although different portions of your memoir will likely require different nuances, overall, should your book be humorous and lighthearted? Warm and loving? Optimistic? Conversational? A talented memoirist will help you to navigate tone.

Memoir Audience

Sometimes, people want to hire a ghostwriter to record their life story for their grandchildren. In that case, you might include details that will be deeply meaningful to them as part of their family history. Perhaps, for example, you could share stories about how you chose each of their parents’ names or more nostalgic details about your houses.

With a memoir intended for commercial purposes, you’ll likely want to include more tension and suspense to keep the readers turning pages. Often, you’ll also spend more time placing your life events into the broader context of world events. Ghostwriters who have written books for a range of audiences will have a sense of what content will best dovetail with your chosen audience for the greatest impact. 

Memoir Characters

It might feel funny to think of your friends, family members, and co-workers as characters but, if they belong in your memoir, then that’s who they are in this context. You’ll be the main character, of course, and you’ll want to strategically choose who else belongs. For a memoir intended for family members, you may want to include everyone in an equal manner, and a ghostwriter can remain aware of this focus as the story unfolds to create the desired balance. For a broader audience, you’ll want to select characters in a way that won’t overwhelm the readers.

Inciting Incident

As mentioned above, your actual story began with your birth. To draw in readers, though, you’ll want to pick the best anecdote to draw in and engage your readers for your memoir’s beginning. If, for example, you gave birth to triplets and much of your memoir will focus on raising them, you might decide to start your memoir with the moment you found out you were pregnant with triplets or when you gave birth to them. In other words, the ghostwriter listens carefully to you and then uses those conversations to appropriately structure the most compelling, binge-worthy memoir. 

External and Internal Scenes

Memoir, as a genre, can go beyond what specifically happened. Yes, that’s important and refers to factual truth. It can also include, though, how you felt at certain times of your life and what you thought about as you dealt with challenges and celebrated joys and successes. That involves emotional truth—and a deft blend of both can create a marvelous memoir.

This is not a comprehensive list of memoir and family history elements to consider, but it’s a good start. It’s also a process that a proven ghostwriter will know how to navigate.

Ghostwriting Services at StoryTerrace

At StoryTerrace, we honor every story, believing that it deserves to be captured and shared. That’s true whether it’s a personal journey, a story of business growth, a generational family story, or one about a cherished loved one. In fact, at StoryTerrace, we go above and beyond these types of narratives with ghostwriters also helping people with children’s books, thought leadership books, and more. So, no matter what your vision is for your book, reach out to us to discuss the possibilities. In each case, we craft personalized books to preserve unique narratives. 

When you hire a ghostwriter through us, we’ll carefully match you to the best writer for your needs. Then, you can relax and share your story with this writer through a series of interviews that could take place in person or online, scheduled at your convenience. 

You’ll have full approval over the text and, when you’re satisfied, our professional editors and designers will transform your memories into a lasting legacy. To make that happen, we’ll design, print, and deliver full-color, hardbound books directly to you. Throughout, with our Bookmaker technology, we make the process as seamless as possible. 

For a no-obligation quote for your next project, get in touch! You can also find information about book packages here. We look forward to helping you capture the life stories that matter.

If you are undecided about capturing your memoir, let’s dig a bit deeper into our souls before we go into how to write a book about your life.

Writing a book about yourself may seem unnecessary, but did you experience tremendous personal growth? Have you overcome insurmountable barriers that seemed like an impossibility?

Do you ever wonder why people praise you for being who you are, though you feel there is nothing special about you? Would you like to trace your family history? Is there a story about your life that comes up at every family or friends get together? If you have answered yes to any of these questions, an incredible story has been brewing all your life.

There is something magical about seeing your story written down and in a book format for people to read. Your life story can inspire, motivate or even entertain a stranger. That deep connection is the reason for writing about your life.  

It will be a gift that your family will cherish forever. What an incredible legacy it can be for generations to come. Many grandchildren hold on to such memoirs dearly; for them, it is like hearing the story of their ancestors from themselves.

It creates a bond between generations set apart in time, sometimes even location.

How to Uncover the Story Within?

Once you recognise the story in you, it is time to put it down in words. It is a powerful way to connect with readers who may resonate with your journey. Sharing your personal experiences is not just cathartic; it can give hope to someone or inspire another.

Yes, there are many things to consider. What to say and what to hold back? Having so much information and penning it down with a purpose may seem doubtful. But there are easy, doable steps that can make the whole process a lot less challenging and more rewarding.

Let's take you through the journey of how to write a story about your life.  

Memoir, Autobiography, or Narrative: Which Fits Your Life Story Best?

There is no one way of writing your life story. To help you find some inspiration, we have narrowed down some of the most popular types.

Essay—These are short essays, a few paragraphs only. They can have a central theme or a particular message, like The True Love by Haruki Murakami, which revolves around finding a true partner.

You can string together different essays revolving around your life and form an anthology. It doesn't need to tell your whole life story, just a part of it.

It is best for people who do not want to share their whole life story but maybe keep it thematic, as in a great love story they experienced.

Memoir—If your goal is to reflect on critical events in your life, consider writing a memoir. A memoir will not typically depict your entire life but the most impactful incidents and events. They are often created to celebrate overcoming a significant obstacle, like Wild by Cheryl Strayed, or explore events at a particular time in life, like I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou.

Memoirs speak volumes to the readers as they are very intense in nature. A beautifully crafted memoir leaves its mark on its reader like lessons in time.

Autobiography—Written in the first person, an autobiography details the narrator's life, often chronologically. It is more complex as it involves other real people. It has a historical aspect to it as it is set in a real period in time. A lot of fact-checking maybe in order.

It is not necessarily limited to one's account of events. The founder of Nike, Phil Knight, and Michelle Obama's Becoming are great examples.

Nonfiction narrative – It is a third-person account written as a story, narrating the course of events or a person's life. In Cold Blood by Truman Capote falls into this category. It can be focused on selected events in your life or a chronological description of the years.

You can choose the best approach when writing a true story about your life. Since you are the protagonist and the narrator, only your viewpoint matters.

Ready to Start Writing?

You may feel like an autobiography should include everything, right? Yes, technically, you are correct. But you should know it can be exhaustive. If you do not have a clear plan of what to include, key details can get lost. It is a good idea to start with a structure. Make it as detailed as possible.

It is always best to start with the very beginning. Stating your birth and family background is a staple at the beginning of most memoirs. It can be precisely your birthday or events leading up to your birth that impacted you.

Let’s talk about your adolescence, teenage life, or even university life. Did you go to a regular school? Or were you home-schooled? Did you have a lot of childhood friends? Reflect on your childhood. What did you consider to be your dream job? Your academic achievements or any event laying a strong foundation for your beliefs is crucial for storytelling.

Now, you may think how can my first job be relevant in writing a book about my life, but this can be significant. Perhaps it determines the rest of your life.

For example, a curiosity about shoe design at your first retail job at a shoe store led you to become a successful entrepreneur in the shoe-making industry.

Your first relationship is a major milestone in your story. Your readers will be interested to know how it impacted you. Maybe you ended up with your high-school sweetheart or have a story about the one that got away. You may have overcome an abusive relationship.

When discussing how to start writing a book about your life, examples of relationship stories, such as Jen Waite’s A Beautiful, Terrible Thing: A Memoir of Marriage and Betrayal strike all the essential chords.

List your turning points in life and every big and small incident that made you who you are today. It can be moving to a new place, having children, starting a business, travelling or getting recognition for your work.

Your retirement or current point in time gives insight into what you are doing now and how you spend your time. It is a kind of resolution or closure to an epic journey.

Don't stress if you cannot remember every little detail of your life. Most probably, they were not that important. If you need help remembering details, enlist the help of a family member or a friend. You will be surprised to see how much they know you!

Key Points to Consider

When you ask yourself how to write a true story about your life, the answer is to account for most of your life with as much honesty as possible. To do that, there are some crucial markers that you need to incorporate in your story.

Creating a Chronological Timeline – An autobiography needs to follow a timeline. Using that, you can create chapters in the book like building blocks. The chronological series will help you recollect better and act like a guide to your narration.

Building Themes: A memoir built around themes is popular. For instance, if you are a founder and your life's work has been a story of resilience, then focus on your traits of tenacity throughout your life. In her life story From Rejection to Success, Sara Blakely demonstrates how she had an indomitable spirit all her life, which contributed to her astounding success.

If your story deals with loss, consider how your life was before the key event and how you changed after it. Traumatic experiences are challenging to share. However, the written words of a true story always give hope to the one who needs it most. They almost have healing magic.

Historical themes are very popular in memoir writing. Give a glimpse of how it would feel like to live through that particular historical period. How different is the modern world?

Develop a writing habit – You can create a schedule and note down as much as possible at a specific time. If you suddenly recall something, make a quick voice note. It will help you incorporate it into the story later.

It's Time to Start Writing it All Down

Your manuscript is everything. It may need several edits to satisfy you, but all the changes and modifications are worth it.

Start with a Strong Introduction—A strong introduction lays down a foundation for the story and evokes the reader's curiosity. Nelson Mandela's autobiography, Long Walk to Freedom, gives insight into his life and connects it to the meaning of his name in the first few paragraphs. Anecdotes are a powerful way to introduce yourself.

Be Honest and Detailed – The more details you would add to your story, the more depth it will have. Going to extraordinary lengths for events and feelings is a pivotal marker of a great story. ​Do not deem anything unnecessary if it is related to your story. Write it all down, the good and the bad.

You will fail to show your vulnerability if you do not discuss your shortcomings. It would make you an unrealistic, perfect individual with whom no ordinary person can relate.

We cannot but reiterate, to be honest, authenticity will add an endearing quality to your story.

Use Narrative Techniques—There are many ways to engage your readers. You can use descriptive language. Do not only describe the settings; talk about weather and emotions. Place yourself at the exact moment; it can help create a sensory effect on the readers.

You can use dialogue to carry the narration. Dialogues are also very effective in building characters. Interactions keep the story interesting.

However, forced dialogue can make the story seem dull or out of touch. Your dialogue should be written in the way you speak. Making a note of accent markers or any colloquial information will make the dialogue more natural than forced.

Brace yourself - Here Come the Challenges

Writing a memoir will face its fair share of challenges, like all creative pursuits. How you deal with and overcome these will determine your narration’s quality. There are two main hurdles.

Dealing with Writer's Block—If you follow a rigorous writing schedule, then it is time for you to take a break. You can stop writing for a while or maybe for a few days. Changing locations is often found to help boost creativity. Please do not take it as a chore; remember your purpose. When you have a goal in mind, achieving it becomes easier.

Addressing the gaps and Sensitive Topics – Though it accounts for your life, you may not be the best person to describe an event or a particular day. You could have been younger and do not remember the details exactly.

If it is essential to your plot point, then do your research. If you want to talk about a historical event and how it changed your life but were too little to remember, ask someone who would vividly remember it.

If things involve other people, you need to be respectful. Sometimes, you may need to get permission to share the details. Talking about sensitive topics needs your empathy and a compassionate approach.

Let's Bring it All Together

Once you have finished writing your book, consider revising it to give it a final polish. Drafting your memoir must have been a herculean task. Unfortunately, it is still not ready to be published. To make it publish-ready, you must ensure the copy is clean.

If you are considering editing yourself, here are some tips.

• Give it a good read. Look for inconsistencies and duplication. Address the issues and reread them.
• Run a fact check. You do not want to have any errors in your book.
• If you are unhappy with something, rephrase it. Sometimes, rewording can make it even better.

Get Some Constructive Feedback

Though you are the best judge for your book, enlisting a few trusted readers does not hurt. Ask your friends and family to read it and give their opinion. Maybe they will have a good idea that you can use.

Do not take feedback as criticism or an insult; take it constructively. Try to see how you can incorporate the suggestions.

Professional Services: If you lack confidence in your editing skills or want another set of eyes, seek professional help. You can enlist an editor or proof-reader to get your book ready for publishing in no time.

Want to Share Your Life Story With the World?

Writing your life story can be an exciting yet tumultuous journey into your past. It can give you the closure that you or many readers may need. If you do not want to make your book available to the public but want to write it as a legacy, it will be the best keepsake for your family. An heirloom that your family will cherish.

But if you want to share how you lived your life with the world to motivate and inspire others or tell someone who may need to hear that everything will work out in the end.

Looking back and pondering the past is a transformative journey. Celebrate the wonderful life that you have lived and commemorate it in a book for generations to come. For that, you will have to sell the book. Readers can only be aware of your book only after you market it to them.

Before marketing the book, you must consider getting the copyright. Another concern is how you would like to print it. You can choose between offset printing and print-on-demand. The first one is for people who already have a ready market. The second one is for people who want to start with fewer copies.

You can create an author website and use social media to market your book successfully. You can interact with fellow authors and engage with readers.

Book launch parties are an excellent way to get the ball rolling. You can have free giveaways, book signings, and much more. If you do not have a marketing team, ask friends and family for help creating a buzz about your book.

How Can StoryTerrace Help?

Writing down your life story is an achievement in itself. If you find it overwhelming, you can hire a ghostwriter. At StoryTerrace, we match each storyteller with the best writer.

You can choose from 600+ writers with varied expertise to write your story. You can take your mind off the writing bit and concentrate on the story. Our expert writers and editors will take care of the writing.

We understand that each story is unique and holds a special place in the narrator's life. It is more than a legacy or a motivational work; it is the story of your becoming, your life work.

We also offer self-publishing packages to help you publish the story that you have written down. From marketing to promotions, we have you covered.

Take advantage of a wide range of packages to cover various needs. Get in touch with us today to start writing your incredible story.

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